I get the impression that it is chic to adopt from other countries. I’m not entirely sure I understand the reason, but somehow many view it to be much cooler to go and adopt a Malawi baby or Vietnamese baby than it is to adopt just a "plain ol’" American baby. I know there are beaurocratic hoops to jump through in the United States that take years. I also think it is much easier to complete an adoption in another country. For some reason there seems to be a more expedited process in other countries. I don’t know if this is necessarily a good thing, but I do think we need to change our current system in the United States. I ultimately wish more would adopt from our own country. There needs to be extensive adaptations to our system to help expedite the process without sacrificing all the necessary legalities to give children in our country homes with loving parents.
It breaks my heart to think about kids going to bed at night, feeling like they don’t belong or are unloved. My kids frustrate me and there are times they flat out drive me crazy. There are times we go rounds in the battle of the wills department, but my kids always know, without a doubt that they are loved unconditionally by their father and me. They know they are safe and secure. They know that there is nothing they could ever do that would cause me to love them any less. They are secure enough to act out, to misbehave, to express themselves, to show vulnerability, to demonstrate compassion and know that they are loved and supported. All kids should have that.
If I were desperate for a child and I knew it would take 2 years for anything to happen here but it would take 6 months if I went overseas it becomes a no-brainer. Unfortunately, the ones that suffer are children in the US orphanages and foster care. There has got to be a better way. I don’t know what that is; I don’t have the legal expertise or social welfare experience. However, there are people out there that do.