Thursday, November 20, 2008

The Truth of the Matter

I have been a stay at home mom since July of 2005 and I love it. It is one of the most rewarding, albeit thankless, jobs that I have ever had. And certainly the hardest. There are no lunch breaks or even bathroom breaks, at least not ones where I get to go to the bathroom alone. I don’t get to leave my work at the office and my "clients" think nothing of waking me up all throughout the night. Oh, and I do it all for free. No paycheck. Being a mother (stay at home or working or somewhere in between) is hard work.

At the end of September I accepted a job writing articles for an online publication. I have fortunately been able to do most of this from home or at least bring the kids with me when covering certain events. This past week I received my first paycheck. It has been a long time since I received a paycheck and I have to admit it was slightly more rewarding than I thought it was going to be.

Having some type of tangible reward for work performed, receiving that type of recognition is nice. Don’t get me wrong. I love being with my children, but it is nice to see that I still have some value and worth that doesn’t simply revolve around only being a mom. It should not have taken a paycheck to reinforce that with me. My value and self-worth are wrapped up in a variety of aspects of my life…my family, my friends, my relationships, my beliefs and values, and apparently my work outside the home.

How about you?


Robyn said...

It took me 19 years of schooling, hundreds of thousands of dollars and countless hours of studying to become a lawyer. My identity is completely wrapped up in being a lawyer.

Which is why it surprised me so much to see how much of me became "Hubby's wife" and "Bear's mommy." But, luckily, I can be all those things -- it's doing each one well that's the challenge.

Nancy said...

I didn't realize until my first little paycheck in September - how much I enjoyed getting a paycheck!

Joanne said...

I like how you included values & beliefs in there too. My identity is wrapped in it all too, family, home, writing; but at I think at the very root of all that are the values & beliefs, giving everything else shape.