Thursday, January 8, 2009

My daughter has been in a ballet class once a week for five months now. She loves it. She looks forward to it every week and talks the rest of the week about what she did in addition to showing us all her new moves. Today was Parent Observation Day. We have these once a month and my daughter is always thrilled that I am able to sit in and watch her perform.

However, today after every couple of activities she would run over and pleadingly ask if we could leave. I would send her back with her friends to finish the class. When class was over she told me that she doesn't want to go to dance anymore. This from the girl that wants to live in her tights and leotard. This from the girl who, since dance, turns everything into an elaborate performance. So, what changed? Honestly, I don't know. I talked with her at length about it tonight and she just says she doesn't want to go anymore.

Really, I don't care if she sticks with it or not. If she no longer enjoys it I am certainly not going to make her do it. However, I also don't want her to quit something because she might have just had a bad day. So, I am going to have her finish out the month and then revisit the situation. If she is persistant with her desire to dance no more then I'll pull her from the class.

So, I don't know....any ideas?


Joanne said...

I like the idea of finishing the month and revisiting the idea, and wouldn't worry about pulling her out. We went through tap, soccer (2 weeks!), piano here, among other things. It's all an exploration, trying new things, learning. She'll move on to something else before you know it.

Johnson and Johnson said...

That is so sad! I hope she was just having one bad day and that she sticks with it. I thought her and N were so cute when they insisted on sitting backwards yesterday..... it was very entertaining. Tell her that S and N will really miss her in their class if she chooses not to continue.

Moxymama said...

Joanne, I agree with you. As long as she is "into" something I am not real particular about what it is. I would just hate to see her give it up and then be upset about it later.
J and J, She and N definitely march to the beat of their own drummer. I hope she will at least stick around until the May recital and then if she doesn't want to do it again next year that's fine. We'll see though. I'll miss our weekly dinners. :)

Nancy said...

Did another student say something to her? Or the teacher? I wonder what's made her change her mind? I'd have her stick out the month and maybe by then she'll have changed her mind.

Moxymama said...

Yeah, I don't know what happened. It was observation day and I didn't notice anything happen at all. So, we'll see. I'm going to take her again this week and see how it goes.

Robyn said...

Kids can be fickle and maybe having you there made her want to be with YOU more than being at dance class.

I think you're smart to make her finish out the month and then see how she feels. Also, did you ask the teacher if anything happened?