I attended a parochial school from grades Kindergarten through 8th grade. My graduating class was a class of 12 people. We were a close group, having gone to school together for nine years. We all ended up at different high schools throughout our city, though, and aside from seeing each other at church on Sunday we went our separate ways, immersing ourselves in new friendships foraged at our respective high schools. Once in a while we'd bump into each other but it was not like we shared much in common anymore other than the connection from our youth. Over time we went away to college, got married, moved, and had children. We started new lives and these old grade school friendships really weren't a part of these new lives we'd begun.
Many of these classmates I haven't thought about in years. That is until the past few weeks. A friend of mine from that time found me through Facebook and she and I began emailing. It was strange because it was like we had picked up where we left off sixteen years ago. The conversation was easy and we reconnected immediately. There is the easy banter of familiarity. Through this reconnection we began to hunt down other members of our class and we all seemed to ease right back in to the friendships we once had. There were no pretenses.
It just made me wonder why some friendships can go years without contact yet seem to pick up right where they left off with no awkwardness or adjustment period yet others become uncomfortable if there little contact for only a short period of time. Why do some endure and others fizzle or implode?
I'd love to hear your thoughts.