Thursday, June 27, 2013

My past month in pictures

 As we started wrapping up the school year life became insanely busy. That is the same time when the summer season for the high school basketball season I coach kicks in to high gear. So, before things got too insane we started spending every afternoon after school at the pool. We belong to a country club every summer basically for pool access. Aside from just being a lot of fun, swimming has had huge benefits for our 6 year old son who has struggled for the past 4 years with serious asthma and other respiratory illnesses. Last summer when he started swimming we were able to take him off 8 medications that he had been using daily for years. He has consistently remained on 1-3 meds since and so far that continues to hold true this summer as well. We actually pay less in country club fees than we did in medical copays for his medicines.


 This handsome boy graduated pre-school this past May. He will begin Kindergarten in August. This was on the day of his graduation ceremony. He has come such a long way and we are all so incredibly proud of him and all the hard work he did this year.

Our almost 8 year old daughter wrapped up 2nd grade this year with one of the lead roles in her class play. She did an amazing job and it is hard for me to believe that she is going to start 3rd grade.
 I was able to volunteer for her field day the last month of school which was a lot of fun.
 We tend to shut down the pool. It's great being so close to our house. We head over in the afternoon and generally stay until dinner time as the sun is going down. Through May it was pretty vacant, but now with the summer in full swing the pool has become party central.

 Sometimes I look at these three and can't believe how fast time has flown. I'd love to just stop the clock and keep them at this age. Well, maybe not by youngest....she's a bit of a holy terror at the moment.
 This stud turned 6 a few weeks ago. This is his typical "smile" for photos.
 He went to two basketball camps this summer and did an awesome job. The first camp was actually held by our inner-district rival high school. It was great though and I am so glad he went.
 In addition to a birthday party with their friends we always take our kids out for a family birthday meal to a place that they choose. Our son LOVES sushi, so we hit a local sushi spot and loaded up. He was in hog heaven.
 Just love and adore these three!!!
 Another weekend spent at the pool. Are you starting to notice a theme? Basketball, pool, basketball, pool.
 I was hired as the Varsity basketball coach at the school I am currently at last summer. Two of the big projects I wanted to get off the ground was an alumni game and a kids' camp. We were able to put the alumni game together and held it mid-season during Christmas break this past December. We had an awesome turnout, raised a lot of money, and just had a great time with players from the school's past.

The summer camp for kids was many months in the making and A LOT of work! There were times when I just didn't think it was going to happen. But it was a huge success and so much fun and our Varsity players who served as coaches for the camp did an unbelievable job. We were expecting about 20 kids, but 53 showed up the day of the camp. It was awesome!!!

 Some more fun at the pool. There is the "upper pool" which has a bar, a wait staff and is a bit more hoity toity. Then there is the "lower pool" which is more of an "anything goes" pool. Can you guess which one the kids love the best?

 The older brother of two girls who play basketball for me was in a horrific car crash in which he suffered a traumatic brain injury. He was not expected to survive, let alone ever wake up. However, almost a month after the accident, he is awake and making small gains each and every day and everyone is hopeful he can return to the life he and his new wife were about to start (she is newly pregnant with their first child). The shirts my kids are wearing are in support of Dallin and his wife Amy.
 My high school basketball team played in a tournament at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego last week. I took the kiddos with (which was stressful) and visited the Whaley House (related to my husband).
 We also spent an evening on Mission Beach and Belmont Park.
 We, of course, spent some time at Seaport Village. One of my favorite spots!!
 This is me and the kids at PLNU on the last day of the tournament.
 This is the view from the gym (yep, the ocean in the background). Must be rough to go to school here.
 My youngest having a blast on the court during a pre-game shoot-around.
 My older two thought it was so awesome to be able to shoot on a real college floor (not that it is any different from our high school floor, but cool nonetheless).
Me and my two dare devils on Coronado Island....my favorite place on earth.

Our summer dies down a bit in July, thankfully. We scale back our summer workouts to only 2 days a week and we don't participate in any tournaments during the month of July. Next week we are embarking on a staycation for my daughter's 8th birthday so it will be nice to just relax around the resort. We may try to squeeze in one quick vacation before school starts, but honestly I just don't know if we will have the time.

It's hard to believe the summer is half over. Depressing actually. I love having the kids home and the freedom to randomly choose to do something one day. I don't miss the structure of the school year.

How is summer going for all of you?

Friday, April 12, 2013

Don't Feed The Yabut

I run a high school basketball program and while I specifically coach the Varsity all the lower level teams and their coaches fall under my purview.  We are gearing up to start our summer ball program which means the litany of excuses is about to start rolling in. Today I called a program-wide meeting and as they filed in and found their seats I told the following story:

"Have any of you heard of the yabut? It is a little animal that is very dangerous. There have been reports of these creatures being found all across the country around high school gyms."  At this point the girls began gasping and looking around at each other incredulously.

I continued, "They are potentially deadly, a real killer of hopes and dreams. What makes a yabut so dangerous is that they look harmless and cute and friendly, so people feed these yabuts. What happens when you feed animals? More show up wanting to be fed. Not only that but they grow bigger and stronger, making it much harder to get rid of or defend against them."

I could tell at this point that a few of them knew some greater lesson was coming, but most of them were still on the hook believing there were these animals running loose, possibly in the gym we were currently meeting. 

I went on, "The scary part is that some of you have yabuts." They start looking at each other, some start laughing; others quieted their teammates down knowing the hammer was about to fall.

So I said, "For instance, I may say, 'It is important for you to be here this summer.' and you say, 'Ya, but I need to babysit that day.' Or I might say, 'You need to come to this meeting' and you say, 'Ya but I can't make it.' The yabut thrives on mediocrity and excuses. The only way to avoid the pitfalls of the yabut is to stop feeding your yabut. If you quit feeding your yabut with excuses and justifications it will die."

"So, as I start to go over our summer expectations I want you to think about what your yabut is. What is holding you back from reaching your goals or becoming the type of basketball player that you want to be?"

At this point, one of my players says, "Wait, so is this real? Is there really a yabut? I don't get it."

Friday, April 5, 2013

Disneyland/California Adventure/San Diego

Last week my kids were on Spring Break so we decided to head to California and take our kids to Disneyland. Our children have never been and it has been around 15 years since I've been or my husband. After three days in Anaheim we spent two in San Diego. I would have loved to spend more time in San Diego. It is one of my favorite places in the U.S. We stayed right on the water and the kids enjoyed watching the boats dock in the marina. 




Two of our three children were the perfect age for Disneyland and California Adventure. They went on EVERY ride: Space Mountain, Star Wars, Splash Mountain, Indiana Jones, etc. It was great being able to get on everything and not have to worry. Our youngest was too short for most which ended up working out okay. A few days before we left she suffered a bad head injury, which resulted in an expensive ambulance ride to the hospital, a CT, and an overnight stay for observation. We left with a concussion diagnosis and were told to limit stimulation -- hello, Disneyland -- and any rides that could jolt her or spin her. Fortunately, she was scared of most rides. She loved the Ariel ride in California Adventure and I did take her on the tea cups but we didn't spin the cup and I held her pretty tight. Outside of that, she slept in a stroller through most of it or my husband and I used the "rider switch" feature quite a bit.
 Ready for Day 2 at Disneyland and California Adventure
 Seaport Village has always been a favorite of mine. Something about walking around the shops and being so close to the water is just relaxing. We always stop in the little candy shop and get a ridiculous amount of taffy to enjoy the rest of the trip.
In years past we have always stayed on Coronado Island. For whatever reason, I opted to try something different this year. While our hotel was nice I will likely go back to booking on the island in the future. Despite staying off the island we spent a day on the island, walking around and playing at the beach. I was certain the water would be too cold and the kids would want no part of it. So certain was I that I wouldn't let them wear their swimsuits. Lesson learned. The kids ended up totally in the water, loving every chilling minute of it.
 Me and my babies on the beach.
 Me and my youngest on Coronado Island
 Love these pictures of my older two running into the waves. Sheer, unbridled joy and excitement.

 Even our youngest went waist deep into the ocean in her jeans and sweatshirt.
 As a random side note, our son was so sick with an asthma flare and allergy complications when we left town. About an hour into California he stopped having symptoms entirely. Zero problems the entire trip. An hour back in to Arizona and he was back puffing on his inhalers.
 I had to keep pulling him in because I was afraid he was going to get pulled out in to the ocean. He had no fear.
 My husband our our youngest surveying the tide.
 The family.
 My daughter, who is convinced we need to move to San Diego.



Thursday, September 13, 2012

Schooling Issues and Tough Decisions


I was a public educator for 5 years. I taught high school English in two different school districts in two different cities. I feel proud to be able to say that I worked with some incredibly hardworking and dedicated teachers and administrators who took their jobs very seriously. Some of my best friends are still teachers within public education and I would feel blessed to have any of my children in any of their classrooms. I technically am still a public educator, even though I have been out of the classroom for a number of years now. I still have a valid teaching cert and am currently employed by a local school district in a coaching capacity. At some point, when my kids are older, I intend to return to teaching. I believe public education certainly has its flaws and I have seen many of them up close and personal, both as a teacher and a parent, but on the whole I believe in public education. I believe the vast majority of public educators are doing what is in the best interest of students and don't get even a fraction of the credit or recognition that is deserved.

Unfortunately, there is a small percentage of educators (public, private, charter) that are not in in for the children. I know they aren't in it for the money, so I'm not entirely sure what they are in it for. Maybe at some point they held optimistic ideals about what they could do for education but somewhere along the way lost this vision. I don't know. What I do know is that these are the people who are ruining education. This small percentage of people who don't put students and student learning at the forefront of all of their decisions are the ones that the frustrated public refers to when they erroneously lump all teachers into the worthless category. There is most assuredly a distinct difference.

Good teachers, at all times, challenge, engage, and push students to their academic limits (both of my daughter's reading teachers last year come to mind). They teach them lessons that extend beyond the classroom, not by lecturing or demanding but through their actions and treatment of others. I feel blessed over the course of my academic career to have had some wonderful educators in my public high school. Bad teachers test their students ad nauseum and give homework and classwork or other extension activities that don't even correlate to the material they end up actually testing them on. I have a fundamental disagreement with the amount of testing some schools have opted to do. I'm sure some people are fine with the philosophy and practice of test, test, test, but when I ask to see ALL the work that my child has done to date and the only thing that comes home is a stack of tests, that is a problem for me. A huge one. The excuse that “all schools do it” is not the truth. Many do and testing as a whole has increased regardless, but I am more apt to ascribe to the philosophy if that you as a teacher are providing meaningful and engaging lessons where true student learning and retention is given the opportunity to occur then the need for constant testing is decreased. Sure, give them a spelling test, a math test, a reading test, but to test every single day is not teaching. Testing is not an accurate indicator of student achievement. It is absolutely a component but it should not be the sole factor. Ironically enough, in getting our daughter's school records in the midst of changing her schools we were able to see some test scores that previously weren't shared with us and it provided some insight as to the mindset of this particular school.

When our daughter was in 1st grade, we were told by her teacher that she had serious concerns about her math tests. This was the first we heard of it (and we didn't even hear of it until the END of 3rd quarter) and didn't make sense because all of her work was coming home with a 90 percent or better (this discussion led to the realization that homework and classwork was not being counted as any portion of her grade, only tests). In going through her records yesterday, we saw the district assessment scores. Her math scores were at 93 percent and her English was at 99 percent. A 93 poses a serious concern? This year she was tested at the start of the year for 2nd grade concepts. She scored an 89 percent and was labeled, “a slight risk.” An 89 percent is a risk? As a side note, I would strongly encourage every parent to put in writing a request to see the records that your child's school has on file (be sure to ask for ALL records). While they may act like they don't have to provide them, you have a right under FERPA to see your child's records. I think most parents would be surprised at what was kept in them. I know I was.

School is not all about test scores and school rankings. Or at least it shouldn't be. School should be about developing a love of learning and a lifelong curiosity. It should be about challenging students and teaching them critical thinking skills. School should be about instilling the value of hard work. School should be about developing friendships and learning to work through problems. School should be a place where hard work is recognized. Notice I didn't say rewarded although there are times where that is appropriate too. School should not be a place where people are rewarded simply for doing what they are supposed to do while consistently overlooking those who do so everyday. In a day and age where kids misbehave, don't do their work, refuse to try, etc you would think the kids who do all these things on a daily basis would be recognized or at least acknowledged.

School should be a place where students and their families feel a part of the community. It should be a place where students, parents, teachers, and administrators all work together in the best interest of the student. An environment that is not conducive to learning is one in which teachers are disinterested and unwilling to communicate their expectations or policies to parents. It is certainly not in the best interest of any child to have an environment where teachers don't feel an obligation to keep in any type of contact with parents, share any of the work that goes on within the classroom, or explain any of the curriculum. An environment that is not conducive is one where you ask to see your child's work and the response is, “Your kid is meeting all standards and has all A's and B's. I don't know what your issue is.” That just tells me that you have no intent to challenge my child. It tells me that you could care less about her simply because at this moment she is excelling. What makes this worse is administrators who defend their teachers at the expense of children. I worked for administrators who were pretty good about defending their teachers. However, if parents were right and made a valid point those were recognized as well. There is not a perfect school out there, but I don't think it is too much to ask for all sides to be heard. As an administrator, you lose credibility when you blindly defend your teachers even though you KNOW they are wrong. During this issue last year we were fortunate enough to have the ASSISTANT principal step in when the teacher and principal wouldn't cooperate. She was invaluable and I will forever respect her for acknowledging that we were right and defending our daughter. She is an administrator who I really do believe does what is best for children.

As parents, schooling is one of our most difficult decisions. When we send our child off to school for the first time and at the start of each new year, we do so with the hopes that our children will love school, get along with the teacher, learn a lot, and grow both academically and socially. We pray for an environment that is nurturing, encouraging, and welcoming. We pray for a staff that loves children and keeps their best interest in mind during all decisions. Because after all, teachers primary responsibility and obligation is to the students. It should not be to administrators, politicians and legislators and that is where I think much of our problem lies. I won't get into my believe that politicians need to stay out of education, but I will say that many schools, and some more than others, are way too concerned about their test scores and school “grade” and less about student learning and retention.

Parents also hope for a school wherein they feel comfortable and welcome. As a teacher I certainly understand that there is a fine line between parent involvement and too much parent involvement, but I don't think a school that fosters an environment that discourages virtually all parental involvement is one that is best for the student. I'd even go so far as to say that this type of environment is harmful. There is extensive research to support this. When students feel a part of a community they do better to put it simply. In schools where parental involvement is weak and a sense of community is lacking they tend to fare worse. If there are no opportunities for parents and teachers to interact, outside of the ONE parent-teacher conference a year, it makes it very difficult to build a sense of community or teamwork. It also takes away all opportunities for those informal “temperature checks” where a teacher could say, “Hey, your kid did a great job today” or “Hey, I have a concern.”

In deciding to change schools we were accepted for open enrollment at our top two choices. One school is within the district our home school is and the other is within the district I attended school and taught. I can say that both of these schools would be good for our daughter. The determining factor came down to what we feel would be better for our son next year. I will say that the assistant principal at one school, the same assistant principal who was so helpful with us last year, went above and beyond. She called us at home one evening to discuss the school and how she felt we would like it over there. She answered all of our questions and was wonderful. The school, outside of our district that we chose, was equally accessible. Our daughter's new teacher called us last night to welcome us, introduce herself, and answer any questions we had and to tell us how excited she was that Delaney would be joining her class. Those little things make a difference. They really do!

I send my child to school in the hopes that every day she will learn something new. I don't want school to be easy for her. I want her to be challenged. I don't want her to come home every single day and tell me what she scored on her test. I want her to come home excited about a project or experiment she did. I want her to come home curious about something she learned at school. I want her to be excited to go to school the next day, not only to see her friends, but because she can't wait to see what she is going to do and learn.

Pulling her from a school she loves and has good friends at was a painful and incredibly difficult decision despite how frustrated we have been with some of her teachers and specifically the school principal. The stress associated with it was beyond what I could have ever expected when we first started throwing the idea around last year. I registered our daughter yesterday in an office where I was cheerfully greeted by every single person who walked in. When I hesitantly asked if I could walk my daughter to class on the first few days (at her current school, parents are banned after the first week) the response was, “Honey, you can walk her to class every single day if you'd like.” When I was told that I could bring my younger kids and have lunch with our daughter whenever I wanted I almost burst into tears. I am under no illusions that this new school is perfect. They have their own unique set of issues and I am sure there will be things that we disagree with. However, the difference is I walked out of there much more confident that any issues that do arise will be dealt with professionally and with students' best interest in mind. And that is really all we have ever asked.

Friday, July 6, 2012

Round Here

Yesterday I checked the mail and in it was the name of my daughter's teacher for 2nd grade. My heart lurched a bit because it is not the teacher she wanted.  I know very little about this teacher and so couldn't provide her the assurances she needed that all would be well, other than the generic, "It will be okay.  I'm sure she's fine.  I will ask around."  My daughter stresses about these things, much like her mother.  So, I've spent the past 24 hours asking around.  The general consensus seems to be that she's "okay" and "fine."  I don't know that those are really the ringing endorsements I was hoping for, but I guess for now I will take it.  Part of me wants to fight to get her into the class that she really wants, but I also think she should try this teacher.  It may turn out to be okay, she may really like her.  I just don't know. What I do know is that for the next 4.5 weeks I will stress about it!  Which, by the way, how is the summer going to be OVER in 4.5 weeks????  I feel like it has barely started!

This year will see lots of changes.  Our son is entering preschool three days a week.  He is very excited about it and I am excited for him.  I think it will be good for him socially especially in preparation for Kindergarten next year.  But it still makes me sad thinking of sending him off to school. Why can't I just keep my kids little forever???

Much is changing for me as well.  Previous to having kids I was a high school English teacher and Varsity Basketball coach.  The coaching is essentially a year-round, full-time job in and of itself.  I loved it! When I started having kids I reluctantly gave it up because I really wanted to have time with my kids and knew that I couldn't be the mother I wanted to be and the coach I wanted to be at the same time.  Last year, a friend of mine asked for some help with her team on a volunteer basis. The athletic director was wonderful in allowing me to bring me kids, which made it possible.  I was hooked again.  I didn't realize how much I had missed coaching and being around the game of basketball.  Long story short, my friend stepped down, I applied, interviewed, and was offered the job.  That has been occupying much of my time this summer:  open gyms, conditioning, and we played in a summer league.

I am beyond excited for this year, even though I know the time demands are going to be insane.  The kids love coming with me and running around the gym.  The girls are fantastic with my kids, which I am incredibly grateful for.  And somehow, even with an almost two year old I am making it work.

So, needless to say this year will be full of changes. Hopefully all good ones and for the better.  Life has been hectic around these parts lately but I am excited about what the future holds and looking forward to getting back into the "working world" even just with this baby step at this time.

How have your summers been?  Any new developments?.

Monday, April 16, 2012

A Plague o' Both Your Houses

Well, maybe not the plague, but the pox.....as in the chicken pox....has infected our house. Thursday night at dinner I noticed some bumps on our 4 year old son's hands that looked a lot like chicken pox. I googled images and thought they looked pretty similar. My husband was quick to dismiss it especially considering all our kids have received the vaccines. We figured it would be pretty unlikely to still end up with the chicken pox. Apparently we were wrong. By Friday morning he had a few more spots but by the afternoon they were everywhere. Our doctor had us bring him in, because they too, were hesitant to believe me.

Confirmed. Chicken pox.

The following day our 19 month old daughter ended up with them. Her case, however, is a much milder case. She only has about 50 pox total. Our son, unfortunately, has hundreds. The doctor said his case is as bad as if he had never been vaccinated. So far our oldest is pox-free, however she woke up today with a high fever, which is was happened to the other two in the days leading to the first pox appearing. Seriously, what would the odds be that three vaccinated children end up with the illness for which they are vaccinated. That just seems really strange to me. I'm not super surprised about our son. He's on meds to help with his lung issues that have messed up his immune system. It leaves him vulnerable to a lot of illnesses which he has unfortunately had. So, for him to be this freak statistic isn't really shocking. However, to have our littlest ones get it also was a bit surprising. If our oldest, the girl with the iron immune system, ends up with the pox I swear the world is ending.

So for now we've watched a lot of movies, taken a ton of oatmeal baths, gone through a bottle of calamine and another of benedryl and seem to be through with the worst of it. The sores are starting to scab and I am hoping we can be back among the living soon!


Thursday, April 5, 2012

30 in 4!!!

A few years back when my almost five year old son was around 2 I got serious about my diet and exercise and dropped 32 pounds in about 4 months. I felt great. I got to go out and buy new clothes in brand new sizes, my joints didn't ache as much, I had significantly more energy, and I just felt so much better about myself. I managed to keep that weight off for about a year until I got pregnant with my third. I figured after I had her I would maintain a similar regimen and lose the weight fairly quickly. Oh, the folly!

Eighteen months later and I am in the ballpark of the weight I was a few years ago before I dropped 32 pounds. It sucks. I am tired a lot, my knees and back kill (I will always have knee and back problems thanks to years of playing through injuries in high school and college, however these parts hurt much less when they're not lugging around 30-40 pounds of extra weight), my clothes don't fit right, and I am just unhappy with the extra weight.

The thing with me is I suck at dieting. I always cheat and crave what I can't have. The only way in the past I have been able to keep weight off for a significant amount of time is to just restrict calories and exercise. April 1 was my self-imposed start date for healthier living. We joined a country club primarily for its pool access (unrelated to my weight loss, but a happy coincidence that it is providing a way to stay active). My goal is to weight lift and do high intensity interval training 3x/week in addition to swimming and playing with the kids in the pool another 3-4x/week.

This is only week one and I have a ways to go but already, despite being sore and exhausted, I feel like I have so much more energy. My back is killing and my knees hurt but I know that is just from not doing anything active the past two years and as the weight comes off those pains will minimize. I've been eating pretty healthy and been staying within my calorie allotment. I put an app on my iphone that has been helpful in keeping me honest in terms of what I put into my body. In five days I have dropped 7 pounds. I know that rate won't/can't be maintained but it feels nice to see results. It gives me the boost and encouragement I need to continue, knowing that if I keep at it there will be results. I gave myself an arbitrary deadline of July 31 to try to drop 30 pounds. If I don't give myself a finishing point I will find a way to push it off. So, to keep me motivated I have to view that as the deadline.

So, what about you? What are some ways you have been successful in getting weight off and more importantly keeping it off?